'I'm no longer attracted to my wife as she's let herself go - now I want her best friend'

A man has revealed how he no longer finds his attractive in a shocking revelation, and instead has his sights set on someone else.

Th man, who has remained anonymous, confessed he no longer wants to be with his wife as she no longer turns him on. Instead, her has made his head turn, but doesn't know whether to act on his feelings or not. He claimed his wife 'rarely' wears and makes 'little' effort with her hair or clothes.

While he doesn't want to get a , he thinks his wife's friend flirts with him and he's ended up fancying her - and even fantasising about her when having sex with his wife.

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He explained how he's been married for 30 years and the couple have an adult daughter who lives in , but as the years have gone on, he admitted he's found it "increasingly heard" to fancy his wife. "It probably sounds horrible and sexist, but she just doesn’t really turn me on any more. She rarely wears makeup and makes little effort with her hair or clothes unless we’re going out," he told .

But this is where it gets complicated, as his wife's friend has caught his eye. He recalled how her friend is divorced with no children, and he and his wife have socialised a lot with her over the years, and he thinks because she's on her own she's always tried to stay "young and attractive" which has led to him "fancying her more and more".

He added: "I think the feeling is mutual because when we’re out in a group, she flirts with me a lot when my partner isn’t looking. It’s got to the point where, even if I do make love to my wife, I just fantasise that I’m with her friend. I think about the practical implications of divorcing, like what would happen to the house, whose side our friends would take, and so on. I’m not 100% sure if I want to break up the marriage, but I’m seriously thinking about having an affair with this woman."

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The husband then detailed how the death of both his parents has made him realise life is too short to "mess about" and he can't bare the thought that at the age of 54 his life feels "over" and knows deep down "passion and excitement are within reach".

The advice given was that he's not technically done any more than just fantasise, but acting on it would be another matter. The agony aunt told him that it could be the grief from his parents, as it can make people behave in 'reckless' and 'unexpected' ways.

"As you say, having an affair might satisfy your fantasies, but the ripple effect would change your life. And by the way, do you even know how this woman feels? Maybe she wouldn’t dream of taking things further than a mild flirtation; your partner is her friend, after all," the advice continued, before suggesting he talk to his wife about his feelings and let her talk about hers too.

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